kernel/hle_ipc: Convert std::shared_ptr IPC header instances to std::optional

There's no real need to use a shared lifetime here, since we don't
actually expose them to anything else. This is also kind of an
unnecessary use of the heap given the objects themselves are so small;
small enough, in fact that changing over to optionals actually reduces
the overall size of the HLERequestContext struct (818 bytes to 808
bytes).